BIBLICAL VIEW OF RELATIONSHIP GOALS
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Previously I had talked about Christian perspective on
dating and also the worldly point of view. I got a lot of feedback from you
guys and some suggested I speak of relationship goals according to the Bible.
Well today I decided to focus on that.
God says that He united man and woman for a purpose. The purposes
commonly known are being fruitful and filling the earth, subduing the earth,
ruling over the animals. The hidden story that we don’t know of is that God
also gave us relationship goals. There are four goals that I will address today.
God’s
ultimate design for marriage is a picture of unity between husband and wife. If
you’ve ever taken a road trip with your spouse, you know that harmony is easily
disrupted. Being patient with one another and encouraging each other allows you
to work together and find common ground. I personally haven’t taken this road but again it doesn’t require
a genius to notice some of these things. A lot of relationships end up in
pieces because people lack unity. No man is perfect and that is why you have to
understand your partner no matter what. Statistics show that 42% of relationships
and marriages end up broken [https://www.mckinleyirvin.com/family-law-blog/2012/october/32-shocking-divorce-statistics/].
This
does not apply to married couples only but also to people in relationships. Romans 15:5 says “May
God, who gives this patience and encouragement, help you live in complete
harmony with each other, as is fitting for followers of Christ Jesus.”
The
ones we love the most are often the ones that hurt us the most. While it’s
tempting to hold a grudge or strike back when we’ve been hurt, we’re called to
forgive each other. And not just when we feel like our partner has adequately
suffered. God is waiting, always ready to forgive our sins when we confess. Our
partners should receive that same quick forgiveness from us that we’ve received
countless times from Jesus. Often than not we recite the Lord’s prayer saying’
forgive us our trespasses as we forgive those who trespass against us’. We
should preach water and drink the same water. Colossians 3:13 says “Bear with each other
and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive
as the Lord forgave you.”
We all have a call to take that natural tendency to make it
all about you and flip it on its end. Instead of expecting your partner to make
you happy, look for ways to make your partner happy. Asking yourself how you
can serve your partner changes your perspective from ‘having to do something’
to ‘getting to do something.’ If Jesus came to serve us here on Earth, we
should take note and serve the one we live with. Matthew 7:12 says that
we should do unto others what we’d expect them to do to us. This is so open and
self-explanatory. Mark 10:45 says “For even the
Son of Man did not come to be served, but to serve, and to give His life as a
ransom for many.”
On my final point, the best thing you can do to your
partner is close your mouth and open your ears. Give your partner some credit
and don’t jump to the worst conclusion. Instead of flying off the handle and
speaking without thinking, take the time to listen to their point of view and
understand what’s on their heart. Don’t be fast to anger and learn to
listen. James 1:19 says “My dear brothers and sisters, take note of
this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to become
angry…”
That is all for today. I hope it
will touch someone and open their eyes. Don’t forget to leave your comments and
feedback. God bless you.
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ReplyDeleteHope this helps someone,even in their friendships
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